Dead is Just a 4 Letter Word

after you have lost one you love? Has your way of seeing funerals and burials changed since you have lost your loved one?

I used to never go to funerals, only to the gatherings following them. Since I lost the mate and felt the comfort it gave to see others that loved him gathered to show he made a difference in their lives, I know how it comforts the living for friends to be there.

I go now, to funerals and visitations and I visit those that are alone. I know the grief they are bearing, but I still don't always have the words.

I think if they can see me there, still standing, that it might ease their hearts to know that one who loved has made it through the dark.

But I have no words today to share with those in grief. All I can do is be there and try not to hurt too deep.

Each one I attend reminds me of the days I stood alone and could not remember later who had stopped to show their love. It puts me out of my mind to watch another family torn by what we see and the closing door of death and not be able to express anything to comfort them. Still, I go. If I am just one more to say I cared, and there are never enough to ease their hearts, I showed them by giving my time, that I care.